The WAR is on!!!!

With all the stories I’ve heard, it almost seems like 4 out of every 10 Nigerian girls, were sexually molested as children – either by uncles, neighbors and sometimes, sadly… even their own fathers L. As if that’s not enough, they grow into beautiful young girls who are approached by ‘wealthy’ married old men who feel money can buy them fresh young virgins. And if that isn’t your story, thank God! But there’s also outright RAPE! Either by people you know or total strangers - while you’re walking on some deserted road, being robbed in your own home, or by a boyfriend who you’ve refused sexual relations. I’m thankful that I’ve never experienced rape, but a lot of girls have and are still going through it, although most of them can’t speak up because of the stigma attached to it. I think in our society; the victim is given more attention while the offender walks off with little or no penalty. And despite the trauma victims go through, we still choose to see them as ‘The girl who was raped’ rather than offer them empathy, help and justice. Sad, but it’s almost as though everyone’s thinking ‘what was she doing there at such an ungodly hour?’ or ‘she asked for it… I’m sure she led him on!’ Even if the victim in question is a ‘call girl’ or someone who stayed out way past her curfew, or whatever else, that is still no excuse for anyone to forcefully have sexual relations with anyone. More and more men are beginning to feel they can do this wicked act and get away with it. We need to act against this now; you never know, the next victim could be your sister, girlfriend, wife or even daughter!

p.s: Inspired by the Walk Against Rape [WAR] which took place on the 16^th of April, 2010. It all started with some people saying enough to rape, and various bodies, well meaning individuals loads of celebs and public figures came together for a peaceful protest against it. The walk kicked off from the Arch Bishop Vining memorial Church at about 10:00am, and ended at the Ministry of Women Affairs and poverty Alleviation, Secretariat, Alausa, Lagos State.

Roll call: Toni payne, Beanpole, Ofunneka Molokwu [Big Brother], Ego Ogbaro, Omo Baba, Holy Mallam, Zara, W4 Steel, Ololade Facus [Former Sisi Oge beauty Queen] etc etc

Zara, W4 and uche










Toni Payne and her artistes 'zara' and 'w4' were in attendance

Guess who? lol








Many Organisations and NGOs were represented but Gbonju couldnt attend as she's a doctor and was on call, so Tolu and I had to represent :-) 

Ofunneka and Ego were really active, they challenged us!

The weather was hot, the walk was loooong, but we were all charged. It kinda reminded me of the hymn "...the Church is marching on; the gates of hell shall not prevail...". Lol


Final Destination

       Final Destination       

Surprisingly, The men were around to support too. [pix] Holy Mallam [left]

2 Days LENDing a hand!

I totally enjoyed myself [for 2 days in a row!!!] on the 30th and 31st of March, 2010. Nope, I wasn’t on some shopping spree, and it wasn’t some party-animal weekend for me either; No thank you! I simply had an opportunity to do what I love doing best… volunteering and hanging out with kids.

Desmond had told me about the LEND programme [kicking off on March 29] a million weeks before, but trust me to totally forget. Honestly, I went red with shame when he called me up that morning because I was on my way out of town for some other engagement. I felt really sad, ‘cos I’d sooo wanted to be a part of the event. I made sure I concluded what I had to do and rushed back to Lagos, that same day, to be able to make the remaining days… and trust I didn’t regret that decision. You know that kind of joy you get when you help the needy, or give your stuff to the underprivildged?   That joy-bringing, roof-raising, omg-I-think-I'm-gonna-make-it-to-heaven type of feeling… that’s exactly how I felt. On the first day, it was a trip to Wesley School for the Hearing Impaired and on the second, it was off to Reagan Girls. Needless to say, it was crazy fun!! Denrela Edun, Ofunneka [from Big Brother Africa], Gxploits, Miss Nigeria 2009, Tarri [from project Fame] and sisi Oge Reps were all present. For all the juicy gist, go to Bee's Lend Story


The Photos from Wesley school for the hearing impaired:

The Kids from the Wesley School, may have been physically challenged [hearing impairity, but they definately mentally fit. They expressed their HIV/AIDS understanding through drawings, a dance presentation and a commendable drama presentation. They were just so excited to have guests [Ofunneka even presented them with some books, linking with her 'book project']... I definately learnt a lot of stuff from spending the day with them [especially the sign language]. p.s: i went around for days telling people 'I love you' in sign language. Cool, huh?

The Photos from Reagan Girls' :

The girls were so intelligent and aware. So many issues relating to sex, Aids, and youths were discussed. Trust denrele to be the mad man that the always is... but of course the girls loved him! And I think they were just so thrilled to have celebs over at their school.